The Court of Appeal

So I yakked about sexy in my last post. Now instead of bringing sexy back I thought we could talk about sex appeal. Sexy is that thing that comes from the inside out. It's what makes the opposite sex go hmmmm. Sex appeal is the wrapping paper for the package. Not that package! You can't just tie a bow around it guys! What I was thinking was how do mere mortals as opposed to the Brangelinas of the world get some of that sex appeal.

Sex appeal is like the word says, about others finding the idea of sex with you appealing. Looks obviously play into it. The rules of attraction vary from person to person. What I think is hot you may not. So I'm going to skirt the issue of physicality a little bit.

When you meet someone what are the things you notice right away? First thing I notice is a persons eyes. Not the color but more like what are they saying. Is there a sense of mystery there that I could get lost in? That for me is part of the sex appeal of a person. How expressive are their eyes.

Next up is their hands. It's not a deal breaker but I don't like ham hocks for hands. However, more important than the shape of the hand or fingers is how well he can use those hands! Ladies, a good pair of hands is more important than the size of the magicians wand and you know that! A guy that knows how to touch someone well...sigh. A good pair of hands is hard to find.

So how do we up our appeal? First by appealing to the sense of smell. Ladies and gentleman step away from the heavy smells or the urge to overdose. A clean light scent rocks. I don't need to make an appeal for good hygiene do I? If you're not clean we aren't gonna go there! In case that needed to be said, I said it!

Touch. Soft skin and yes, even if you're a guy! Best way to get it is a sugar scrub while you take a shower. Sugar. The kind that you put in your coffee or whatever followed by some baby oil or other really rich moisturizer and you are as soft as a babies tush. Guys, go read GQ to find out how you get soft skin. Not sure about the sugar and all that hair on your bodies.

Sex appeal needs to cover all the senses. So here's looking at you kid. No shlumpy sweats. Show off the body parts you like. A little cleavage? Nice legs or some JLo booty? Guys, buy clothes that fit! No baggy shirts or ass crack baggy pants. We wanna see the goods!

With a little effort we can all boost our appeal and that boosts our inner mojo that makes the opposite sex take notice. It doesn't matter if you are twenty something or boomer something! If you're a boomer something like me than get your appeal on baby, it's definitely not over yet!

Where Does Sexy Come From?

I'm not sure I've figured it out yet even though I've had long enough! There have been different times in my life where men have found me to be sexy (not to be confused with pretty). So what the hell were they seeing? If I knew I would have bottled it!

What got me thinking was the guy whose picture is up there at the top. He's a contestant on American Idol this year. Yes I watch Idol? Wanna make something of it? (Can't take the NYer out of this girl) So he looks like a nice enough guy, but be honest, you'd walk right by him on a busy street. You wouldn't turn your head for another look. So after his performance why were girls screaming for him? He was suddenly sexy.

I wish sexy was easier to define than I know it when I see it. It's easier for me to tell you what isn't sexy. To put us all on the same page (even if it gets a little crowded) sexy is not the same thing as having sex appeal. Sex appeal is all about external things. Sex appeal is about the pretty but you don't need to be pretty/handsome to be sexy. Okay, so it doesn't hurt... I took a moment there to daydream about my favorite hunk!

So sexy really isn't about the external which means that sexy clothes or lingerie is actually a misnomer. They should be called "I want to have sex" clothes! Now while everyone has different ideas about what sexy is, there is one thing that most women find sexy in a guy. It happens any time he does the dishes! Am I right ladies? No sixpack abs needed. Are you paying attention guys? I hope my guy reads this post. Hopefully it will lead to a lot of clean dishes if you know what I mean!

Incredible talent is sexy. Clean dishes are sexy. What else? A little bit of the bad boy is sexy. So is kindness and definitely a sense of humor. These three things might be like the trifecta of sexy.

So what if you have this wonderful guy. What can he do, besides of course the dishes? He can look at you like he really sees you. He can hold your face in his hands and slowly kiss you. He can jump up and hug you when you meet somewhere like a restaurant, a party or just by chance. He can make you feel like you're the only woman in the room. Funny how when a guy makes you feel good, he becomes sexy.

Sexy is as sexy does! So just do it!