Showing Your Privates

Much like cleavage, it's a matter of individual taste as to how much you want to expose yourself. Now that you have swallowed the bait I'm going to pull a switch! I'm not talking about *those* privates!

At a recent lunch/brunch/maybe even breakfast with a couple of gal pals we got to talking about social media, specifically how people act on Facebook and twitter. Some people don't like to share details of their lives. Some share too much.

I have some unwritten rules. Actually I didn't realize I had them until we started to talk about it. I will share all the good stuff. I will even share all the stupid stuff that I do. Everyone can use a laugh even at my own expense. Seems in that department I have a rather large expense account! There is one condition, I only do it if I can do it in a funny at least semi witty way. It's not like everything or even anything I do is so interesting. Some of the fun is seeing that everyone else is as boring as we are!

The bad stuff I generally just don't share on Facebook or Twitter. Who needs to bring other people down? I think the only thing I shared in this category was when one of my dogs died. See! Makes you feel sad right? If I have a fight with my husband for example, no matter how tempting it is I don't share that. Although getting all the virtual hugs and "you go girl" kinda stuff is neat I can bug real life friends for that. The real reason I don't do it is because it's not all about me. He has a right to his privacy. Basically I can tell you that if you're looking for tales of woe keep moving. Nothing to see here.

Other people share everything. I mean Too Much Informationville! I guess it doesn't really bother my sensibilities. I'm not even sure if I have sensibilities. I rarely have plain old sense so we can safely assume the book Sense and Sensibility was not modeled after the likes of me. I read the TMI updates but I often don't know how to respond. If they really "let it all hang out" I usually stare for a little while and then move on. Hopefully I remember to close my mouth. Well how would you respond to someone who is fighting with their partner because he wants her to spank him! Do you REALLY want to get in the middle of THAT?! There's all sorts of other crazy stuff people put out there. I bet some of it is a way to get attention. Just don't overplay that hand. I can deal with all kinds of crazy, just not in large doses. Then you will be unfriended or unfollowed. You will be part of the walking Un!

There is another group of information overachievers. People who are going through a rough time in their lives. It could be anything from a sick family member, infertility or losing a job. Some people will use social media as a sounding board. Over and over and over again. They want you to respond but they don't really want to listen to anything you have to say. At some point you wonder if they are ever happy. Do they remember how to laugh at all? My reaction when the shit hits the fan is to laugh. I don't like the alternative. I try not to judge people who deal with things differently than I do. I feel for them because they obviously are in pain and need some kind of validation and or understanding. Sadly it seems they have an easier time talking to the virtual community than the real life people in their lives. Here too less would be more or I will start banging my head on my desk. I won't unanything them because I couldn't stand the guilt!

So how much cleavage do you like to show? Do you have any or is that a push up bra so you can get them some attention? It's all a matter of what feels right. Ultimately you need to be yourself. Being me will just get you into trouble!