It's not everyday you have an anniversary. Okay I know, if it was every day then it wouldn't be an anniversary! Work with me here people! When you have been with the same guy for so many years and he hasn't tossed you out, or you him, it means there is also a lot of history going on. In our case the boy met this girl at the airport in Paris. The year was 1973. He asked me for a match. Those were the good old days when you could smoke anywhere. Luckily I too was a smoker and had a match to give him! The rest as I said is history!
Thinking back on that time period it was pretty much like an episode of That 70's Show! Then came the 80's and with that came marriage. The eighties was not my favorite decade as decades go. Hard to take the flannel wearing slightly hippie chick and make her wear preppie clothes, but preppie clothes I did wear. I didn't know you could just say no! During that decade came the kids. Then things got a little blurry. I was suddenly not me but someone's Mom and dressed like a preppie no less! So there I was, like most Moms, always thinking about someone else. I think that's the reason those years seem so blurry to me. I lost a bit of me.
All hail the 90's. Grunge was here and flannel was back! With this new decade I started to see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel and it wasn't a train! The kiddies were no longer really kiddies. It went way too fast. I think it speeds up the moment they start first grade. That's when they really go out into the world on their own. We just don't notice how fast it goes because we're all so busy making sure they survive to adulthood. I just know that it felt as if I turned around and they were all grown up.
Finally the year 2000 dawns and a miracle happens. I'm back! Well maybe not in 2000 but during this decade that frankly I don't know what to call. The kids have left the building. Once again it's just the two of us. You never know how that will all work out. Plenty of couples find they have nothing to say to each other. Actually they probably have a lot to say but they're just not saying it! That's the thing about marriage. There are so many ups and downs when it spans so many years. It isn't easy and love doesn't always conquer all. I think it takes stubbornness. Others might say stupidity as in " they were too stupid to split up"!
Whenever I talk about longevity in marriage I am reminded of a real life story. One of my husband's friends had gotten married for the second time. He asked us what the secret to a long marriage was. While I was busy trying to come up with a brilliant answer my husband simply said "Don't get divorced."
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