Sexual Healing

Female viagra. Yes ladies and gentlemen, step right up and join the new sexual revolution. History shows us it always starts with a pill!

Sorry ladies, this pill does not guarantee an orgasm. What it apparently does is increase sexual desire. Apparently there is a group of women out there with very low sex drives. The drug companies gave it a name that they shortened to HSDD and then they set out to find a cure. What they managed to come up with is Flibanserin,. Ironically a decidedly unsexy name. I've never had a low sex drive but there are women that have this problem. Since becoming a member of the "I don't have to worry about getting pregnant anymore club" I have heard from other female members who have seen a decline in their desire to engage in sex. Its a lack of hormones thing that effects some women in that particular way. So do we need this pill?

I can't help but think this pill was developed by a man. The pill makes a woman desire sex more. Chalk that up to a win for the guys. It means more sex for them! If they really wanted to help women they would have developed a pill that guarantees an orgasm. So we're still left needing a guy with a good pair of hands and the responsibility of showing them how to use those hands.

For women, the biggest sexual organ is their brain. The turn on starts up top and works its way down. Having a pill that could quiet our overworked organ would be a plus. Leave all the good thoughts and tell the rest to STFU! For me personally I would like to gag the voice in my head that says"Um, hey you over there having fun, how does that love handle look when you're in that position?!" Forget gagging it, I want it waterboarded and then sliced up by Dexter. He only kills other killers and this voice is a mood killer. But alas, no such pill. Maybe we need more female scientists.

So for now I think this pill is really only for a specific group of women and hopefully it will have a positive effect for them. As to the rest of us I think we need to work with what we already have. Maybe a nice relaxing glass of wine. Openness about your sexual needs with your partner because he cannot read your mind no matter how hard you concentrate. Of course I can hear that voice in my head saying "Thats all fine, but you can't shut me up!" Well actually I can. I can do extra ab work but better than that I can remember that after almost thirty years my partner still wants some!

Sex In The Menopausal City

Recently I exposed myself. Get your mind out of the gutter people...although this post is about sex. Okay then, minds back in the gutter but what I meant was not what you think. Said exposure was by letting my friends in on my blog. One of my friends said we need a TV show that is kind of like Sex in the City meets For Women My Age. Then yet another friend decided laughingly that it should be called Sex and the City...The Menopausal Years! So now you know how I got from point A to point B!

I know nothing about what sex is like for other women my age, at least not in any scientific I can prove it kind of way. I know about myself and I know what I think it should be like for women my age. There were a lot of factors that got us to this sexual point in time.

When we were younger and just starting out we had hot bodies but few of us really knew how to use them to the fullest extent. Ah ,youth is wasted on the young! Then we matured and with our hot bodies still intact we reached our sexual prime which hopefully also meant we learned how to use what God gave us. Then for a vast majority including myself came the child bearing/ child rearing years. If anything can put a damper on your sex life it's kids which ironically is how you get kids in the first place! I for one spent the vast majority of those years when my kids were itty bitty in a chronically tired haze. No naps unless the kids napped which even then meant sleeping with one eye open just in case! For me the second sexual revolution came when my kids were old enough to get up on a Saturday morning, get some cereal and turn on the TV by themselves! As revolutions go it was a small one. I was indeed less tired which was an improvement. Just ask my husband! However spontaneity was gone. Like a total eclipse it was a rare event that happened when the stars aligned and both my kids had a sleepover on the same night! As long as the kids were still living at home it got worse the older they got not better. Older kids go to sleep later and later. I know you see where I'm going with this. Older kids also know things. So being quiet is essential.

I know there are women who did not marry or did not have kids. Their story will be vastly different. I'm not ignoring them but I leave it to one of them to blog about it since it would be foreign territory for me.

So now the kids are out of the house. Lets assume you still love the guy you married and want to have sex. This is where I think God screwed up. Menopause changes your body in ways we don't always like. Well at least you don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy, I'll give God that! Even men don't have a total advantage when it comes to sex and the aging process. One word. Viagra. So what does all of this have to do with God? I think he got some things backwards. I think that if you have raised your kids well and in general lived a good life your reward should be the hot sex life you had when you were starting out!

Since God missed the boat on that one its up to us to make it happen. Short of sounding like Dr Ruth Westheimer, I say go get laid with abandon! You earned it! Try something new or improve on the old. Leave your inhibition behind. We all know by now. that life is too short. Let the next sexual revolution begin!