My Big Theory of Relationships

I think the equation goes something like Man + Woman (or any combination thereof) = chaos. Even in a new relationship that's in the honeymoon stage there can be chaos. Do you think love is only a chemical reaction? Doesn't matter. At some point there will be chaos. Love exists. Doesn't matter if it is caused by chemistry or our hearts. We still can't touch it or hold it up and say "Here, take a look, *this* is love."

So we can't define love which hopefully leads to a relationship. Can we define relationships? Or rather can we define what makes a good relationship in all the ensuing chaos? For me it falls under the "but I know it when I see it" category. Let's start by tossing these babies out with the bath water! I've always wanted to do that so could finally understand that expression. What I mean to say is lets assume and of course by doing so we will make an ass out of u and me, that yadda yadda yadda trust and honesty are the foundations for a good relationship.

This post is NOT is a lecture on what a good relationship is because that's something different for everyone. It's more me rambling about me me me and what makes a good relationship for me. I gotta go with sharing. I'm not a do everything, like the exact same things kind of a gal. Too much of a good thing, me (!), would be too much for any man! If you wrote a blog you too could write crazy things about yourself . Seriously, for me, sharing is the glue that keeps this whole thing together.

So what should be shared? Well, chocolate but I think that goes without saying! Minus the minutiae I think that dishing about the funny, the sad or the things that made you angry about your day is a must. Must he know that oh I caused trouble at work? Maybe, or maybe not. I like it because it's a few minutes of reach out and touch someone that you haven't for a large chunk of time. My other fav things are when we share things like new books, movies we might want to see or a new philosophy/spirituality we might have found. The kind of things that make us grow and thankfully not in a dress size! The beauty here is that I don't have to like the book or see the movie. I don't want a relationship with my exact twin. I get more than enough of me. What's important is sharing our explorations. Then you never get so far away that you leave the other one behind.

I like to share things. Hugs. Kisses. Dog walking. Cleaning. The crazy in my head. The crazy in his head. The kids. They;re mine when they are good and his when they are not! I guess you could say we didn't learn about sharing in kindergarten for nothing!